Friday, January 22, 2010

No, I do not like a good mystery

Parenting sure is a roller coaster, isn't it? Just when you think you have figured something out... WHACK...something else is thrown at you.

We decreased Emily's formula a couple of nights ago. We went from 450 cc's of formula back down to 370 cc's and changed the rate on her pump from 52 cc's an hour to 46 cc's (we figured we would go back to where she was before and see how she did with that). That first night, she still woke up at 3am (that had become her favorite time to wake up). She cried for a little bit, but when I put some Orajel on her swollen gums, she quieted down and eventually went back to sleep.

Side note: Have I mentioned that Emily has started grinding her teeth? Have I mentioned that the noise grates on our nerves? It is an awful sound and Emily does it constantly (day and night). If anyone has any ideas for nipping that in the bud, please share. : )

OK, back to the feeding saga...

The second night, Mike increased her from 370 cc's to 400 cc's and we increased the pump to 48 cc's an hour. That night she slept until 6am (progress!). At 6, she started crying, so I got her up and took her out to the living room for some snuggling. I figured I would let Mike sleep for a while. Emily and I just sat quietly for a bit. She was pretty calm, but sounded a little gunky - I believe that is the technical term for a bit congested. I had her on my lap sideways and was rubbing her back and that is when I noticed that she was wet. So I changed her diaper, cleaned her up, got her dressed and then put her back to bed. Not sure if she slept much after that, but she rested until about 8:30 when Mike got her up.

That day, she was in her stander and had a complete meltdown. Mike was in the other room and I had just left the room and she started bawling. We had no idea what happened, but she was inconsolable for a good 30 or 40 minutes. She goes in her stander twice a day for 30 minutes. We have not changed anything about the stander so we could not figure out what was going on. She was fine for the rest of the day until just before bed time. She had another crying fit. It took about 30 minutes or so for her to calm down. That happened on Wednesday.

Last night, I went out and Mike was home alone with Emily. She had another crying fit in her stander and then cried for a good while after that. He tried everything and she would not calm down. He eventually put her to bed and let her cry for a few minutes. It wasn't long before she quieted down.

These crying fits are a mystery! Mike and I cannot figure out what is going on. Twice it happened in her stander, but she has had other crying fits recently too. There is no consistent cause. Is it her teeth? Is she having tummy issues? Is she just being a 2 year old and trying to get out of doing things that she doesn't want to do (the stander)? We are stressed out and exhausted! We have been brainstorming a lot and have yet to come up with any concrete answers. I really wish she could tell us what is going on!

8 comments:

Kerrie said...

UGH! We're going through the SAME EXACT thing!! Aidan has a melt down with every feed. We haven't changed a thing, but he holds his breath and actually turned blue yesterday.

We are at Kosair and had a g-tube study - all is well. And are in the middle of a overnight EEG. Just saw Dr. P, he said that we should keep valium on hand if he has a bad episode and can start a kenogenic (spelling? it's a high fat diet) or lamictal, a non-drowsy drug. We'll get the results tomorrow, I'm sure they'll be clear as mud!!

As for the teeth grinding, I tap Aidan's lips with my finger (lightly, to get his attention) and I say NO! and he usually stops.

Stephanie's Mommy Brain said...

Ugh! So sorry you are having a hard time. As for the grinding, my guys cycle through that also. Usually at night. We can hear them from our room and it is terrible. I have no suggestions for how to stop it. Will did it but seems to have outgrown it. Now it's Ben's turn. Wish I had better advice.

Katy said...

Well, I clench my jaw and it can be extremely painful--maybe a trip to the dentist is in order?

Also, Charlie si defnitely going through a clingy stage and barely ever lets me leave the room--maybe Emily is going through something similar?

Just throwing ideas out there!

Anonymous said...

I volunteer on residential summer camps with SEN children - sharing a room with them whilst teeth grinding didn't seem very favourable!!

To stop the grinding we found the tooth they tend to grind on (normally a side one), if you put light pressure on the cheek where the tooth is - it stops them from doing it. After a few times they get bored & usually stop.

Hope that helps :) x

Anonymous said...

I volunteer on residential summer camps with SEN children - sharing a room with them whilst teeth grinding didn't seem very favourable!!

To stop the grinding we found the tooth they tend to grind on (normally a side one), if you put light pressure on the cheek where the tooth is - it stops them from doing it. After a few times they get bored & usually stop.

Hope that helps :) x

therextras said...

I would take hope from the fact that she calms relatively quickly - although each minute seems much longer. Calming oneself is a developmental skill, and sometimes the brain can get into a loop (repeated behavior) that is difficult to break out of.

At the same time, when associating something with a memory (like a parent leaving the room) crying is a sign of development.

Crying is also a communication. Sometimes offering a crying child a choice of two things can lead to the source of the crying (if it is intentional).

Looks like the other mothers have offered wisdom on alleviating teeth-grinding. Barbara

Big brother, Little sister. said...

Hi Dawn, lovely to catch up on your family :)
I also thought of development when you mentioned her crying when people leave the room. I also thought typical 2 year old getting cross at doing something she does not want too. My daughter is acting the same way! lol AS for the teeth Cooper did the same till he was about 3....he since had 2 teeth taken out that were badly ground down, perhaps see a paed dentist for an idea? or a teething ring to suck/bit/chew on? sending EMily all our love and hugs from Aussie! bron xoxox

Anonymous said...

hi, i feel that crying is part of the growing. i ve 3 children. all of them behave like that during 2 to 3 yrs old. the teething and the growing (the bone's expanding). the uncomfortable feeling they are experiencing... it wil go away... the old folks here believe that after the crying stage, the kid wil grow up..